The path to having a new experience
What I learned going live on social media every day in October
At the end of September I made a commitment to go live on one of my social media channels every day for the month of October.
Yes, 31 days of showing up in front of the camera: rain or shine, tired or energized, feeling confident or shy. Whatever the circumstance, I would show up.
I devoted myself to this daily practice, but here is the larger thing I was actually devoted to: having a new experience.
Prior to October, I was feeling frustrated, stuck, and stifled in my content creation.
I needed and wanted a new experience.
When I saw a post for a Daily Live Challenge that was being hosted by a fellow visionary coach on social media, my body immediately said YES.
Even though I had never had an exchange with this coach before, I reached out to her and said I’d like to join.
I felt hesitant, concerned I wouldn’t be able to show up everyday. But I also felt lit up, excited, and knew that I would not be in the same place at the end of the month.
Regardless of what happened, I would learn something and the needle would move.
It couldn’t not move: I was about to engage in a different way of being.
Just as my body knew it would when it guided me to saying “yes,” the experience of going live daily in October did, in fact, change me.
I’m not in the same place I was at the end of September.
Here are some of the things I learned / things that were reinforced for me:
Choosing to have a new experience doesn’t always mean grand gestures, like leaving a job, ending a relationship, or moving to a different location. Although it can entail big shifts, small, daily devotional acts also move the needle and can be just as powerful.
Devotional acts towards something we want to shift in our lives are acts of love. In one of the IG lives I did in October, I talked about why I use the phrase “self-devotion” and not “self-discipline” in my work.
It’s because devotion is attuning to the thing we want to create in our lives with love. Think about how powerful it is when you’re creating your life with the energy of love rather than a sense of obligation or resentment.
Showing up live was a devotional act to my work, to my gifts of teaching and leading, and to you: the beautiful human who receives and consumes my content.Once I worked through some of the jitters I had about going live and unscripted, I learned that it’s actually a great teaching format for me. I learned to surrender to the process and trusted that the topic I felt called to speak on was exactly what someone needed to hear that day.
Everyday before I went live, I said a prayer, asking for clarity of thought, clarity of word and concision. I asked that it be an answer to someone’s prayer, longing, or question, even if that person didn’t know that it was a prayer they had been offering up.I learned a lot about my style of content creation and what lights me up the most. I’m learning more about my Human Design type and how that impacts the way I create content.
I learned to pay attention to the way my body responds to other content I saw online, practices + processes that were currently lighting me up/I was learning from, and conversations/topics I was seeing and hearing in the collective.
This shift helped me feel like I was relating to you through my content because it was in response to something that is already alive in the world (rather than pulling something out of thin air that I thought might be relevant to someone).What I wasn’t doing was the path to getting a new experience.
I’ll restate that for you: what you aren’t doing is the path to getting a new experience.
So, friend: what is the new experience you’re longing for right now?
And what is the thing you’re not doing? Often it’s the thing right in front of us.
The solution can be as simple as choosing to do daily lives on social media.
Or carving out 5-10 minutes per day for something that delights and nourishes you.
Or choosing to believe yourself no matter what arises internally.
The possibilities are truly endless.
But they are there for you, waiting.
Waiting for you whenever you’re ready.
If you’re ready for a new experience and would like support discerning what your specific path looks like, I currently have two openings for 1:1 coaching work.
To your new experience,
Grey
Here are the top three most popular topics, according to viewers, for both Facebook and Instagram lives this past month:
Facebook:
Instagram:
Check them out and let me know what resonates.
Some brief updates / announcements:
Sunsetting of Heartbroken Substack
I mentioned the likelihood of this happening in a newsletter over the summer, and the time has come. My work is evolving and taking me into new directions.
Thank you to those of you who’ve been with me through the many iterations and evolutions of my work and to those who joined me during the launch and existence of Heartbroken. It was an important space for the time it needed to be.
I haven’t decided what I’ll be doing with the content that lives on Substack yet, so more on that at a later date.
I’ll be shifting my newsletter back to MailChimp. If you want to remain on my mailing list, no action is needed on your part.
As always, you’re free to go whenever you’d like, and I’m grateful for whatever length of time you’ve been here.
Be on the lookout for a couple of new group offerings coming soon
My 7-week online course, ENOUGH wrapped up this week, and it was such an incredible experience. I’m so honored to have worked with the folks who signed up to be founding members.
I’ll be taking their feedback and my own notes about the course and will be making some tweaks before launching it again. TBD on a date for the next iteration.
In the meantime, I’m cooking up two smaller group offerings, including a collaboration. More info on those coming soon.
In case you missed these recent conversations:
When you’re doing the work but you keep getting hurt (or are hurting others); It’s maddening, isn’t it?
What true repair looks (and feels) like; + a couple of exciting announcements
A practice for when you feel like not enough; It’s simple, and it works.